18 year old rights against parents

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16 Year Old Rights Against Parents

Your parents or carers are responsible for making sure you are safe and well usually until you reach the age of 18. This is because the law states that until you reach this age, you are still regarded as a minor and therefore your parents are still legally responsible for your welfare.

This does not mean however that you have no say in decisions that directly affect you. In fact, reaching 16 means you obtain specific new rights against your parents. The law will also typically take into account your wishes and feelings when it comes to certain decisions your parents make that affect you.

What rights do I have at 16?

Once you reach 16, although you cannot do everything that an adult can do, there are decisions you can make that your parents cannot object to, as well as certain things that you can only do with parental consent.

Leaving home

You can leave home with or without your parents’ consent as long as your welfare is not at risk. Where a parent feels that your welfare is at risk, they can take action to bring you home.

Your parents also have the right to apply to court if they want you to return home for another reason; however, due to your age, a court is unlikely to force you to return against your wishes.

At 16 you can enter into a housing contract (and are also therefore liable if you breach it) and are entitled to local authority help with housing if you are unintentionally homeless.

If you are in care, you will be entitled to a Pathway Plan from the local council once you reach 16 to prepare you for your eventual transition out of care; however, any care orders will be in place until you are 18.

Marriage

You are legally able to marry or form a civil partnership when you reach the age of 16. However your rights at 16 do not override parental rights in this regard, and you must obtain consent to marry from your parents or legal guardians.

Sex

Your rights at 16 years old mean you are able to consent to intercourse with anyone else over the age of 16.

Anyone in a position of trust who has sexual activity with a person under the age of 18 however, will be committing an offence. Therefore your parents can intervene in these circumstances due to their responsibility to keep you safe.

Medical treatment

Once you are 16, you have various rights in regards to medical treatment and decisions.

16-year-olds can usually:

  • Choose their GP
  • Females can buy over the counter emergency contraception
  • Consent to medical treatment
  • Receive medical treatment on their own
  • Register to donate blood

Your parent or guardian cannot usually refuse for you to do any of these things, except in certain circumstances such as questions around your ability to understand the consequences of your actions.

If you refuse treatment which your parent or guardian thinks is in your best interest to receive, they can apply to the court to order you to have the treatment. This doesn’t happen often, and only in extreme circumstances.

You must also pay for prescriptions and eye tests unless you are in full-time education, pregnant, on a low income or in certain other circumstances.

Education

You are eligible to leave school if you reach the age of 16 before the beginning of the next school year. You must then remain in some form of training until you are 18.

You must either:

  • Study full time
  • Start an apprenticeship
  • Work or volunteer 20 hours a week with part-time education or training

Age Restricted Items

Alcohol

  • At 16 you are able to go into a bar or pub unsupervised, but can only drink non-alcoholic drinks.
  • If you are with an adult and eating a meal, you are legally allowed to drink wine, beer or cider if bought by an adult.

Tobacco

  • You cannot buy cigarettes or other tobacco products until you are 18
  • You cannot buy e-cigarettes or liquids until you are 18

Other items

  • You can buy aerosol paint, lottery tickets and scratch cards
  • You cannot buy fireworks until you are 18

Money & work

Your legal rights at 16 mean you can work full-time (up to 40 hours per week) at National Minimum Wage once you have reached this age. You will not be able to work between 10 pm and 6 am, or in certain environments until you are 18.

You are able to join the Army, Navy, Air Force or Marines at 16 years old with parental consent.

You will not normally be entitled to claim benefits until you reach 18, except in limited circumstances such as:

  • Those estranged and living away from parents whose mental or physical welfare may suffer otherwise
  • Orphans and those leaving care

If you would like to know whether you are able to claim benefits, you should seek professional legal advice based on your circumstances.

Driving

At 16 you have the right to drive a moped, and if you have a disability, you may also be able to drive a car.

Identity

You can change your name by deed poll and apply for a passport without parental consent once you reach the age of 16.

What happens at 18?

Usually, once you are 18 years old, in the eyes of the law, you are an adult and parental responsibility no longer applies. Therefore you are free to make all of your decisions without getting parental consent.

For instance, once you reach 18 you will be able to:

  • Buy and drink alcohol
  • Drive a car
  • Marry without consent
  • Claim benefits
  • Leave education

It is important to note that in some situations you will remain under the care of your parent or guardian after the age of 18, therefore if you are unsure of your position you should contact a legal family specialist who can advise you.

What if my parents and I don’t agree?

The need for the law to balance your rights and those of your parents is a delicate matter for the courts, and you may not always feel as though decisions are fair. Your status in law remains as a minor at the least until you reach the age of 18 therefore although you may have more rights now that you have reached the age of 16, you still do not have the same rights as an adult.

Seeking professional advice from a solicitor experienced in family law is key to fully understanding your rights at 16, and may help to avoid any discord between you and your parents.

Legal disclaimer

The matters contained in this article are intended to be for general information purposes only. This article does not constitute legal advice, nor is it a complete or authoritative statement of the law, and should not be treated as such. Whilst every effort is made to ensure that the information is correct, no warranty, express or implied, is given as to its accuracy and no liability is accepted for any error or omission. Before acting on any of the information contained herein, expert legal advice should be sought.

Sours: https://www.lawble.co.uk/16-year-old-rights-against-parents/

Parental responsibility for 18-year-olds

Laws pertaining to parental responsibility for 18-year-olds will differ depending on the country of residence. In the UK, when a child reaches the age of 16, he or she can already begin taking a number of different decisions which don’t always require parental consent. When a child turns 18, UK law considers that child to be an adult in every sense. 18-year-olds are entitled to the same control and privacy over their lives awarded to and enjoyed by their parents.

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Education

UK laws relating to education are changing. At present, a child is still free to leave full time education when he or she turns 16. However, from September 2013 the education leaving age in the UK will rise to 17 and in 2015 that age will rise again to 18. This means that parents will be legally required to ensure that their children attend some kind of formal education until the age of 18 from 2015 onwards. When a child turns 18, he or she will still be able to decide whether or not higher education is something he or she wishes to pursue and parents have no legal say over whether an 18 year old remains in education or not. However, the level of financial support offered to that child by the UK government will depend on the financial situation of his or her family and, by law, this information must be provided when the time comes.

  • UK laws relating to education are changing.
  • When a child turns 18, he or she will still be able to decide whether or not higher education is something he or she wishes to pursue and parents have no legal say over whether an 18 year old remains in education or not.

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Legal rights

When a child turns 18 in the UK, parents no longer have a legal right to control what the child does or the decisions that he or she makes. At that age they are free to buy what they want, work where they want, travel where they wish to travel and live wherever they wish to live. Furthermore, 18-year-olds are also free to marry who they want and follow the religious beliefs that they wish to follow. In a nutshell, an 18-year-old is free to live his or her life as he or she chooses. Parents may still wish to guide their children and may worry about the decisions that they make, but UK law is designed protect the wishes of the “child” and the parent isn’t able to use the law to maintain control over his or her child’s actions.

  • When a child turns 18 in the UK, parents no longer have a legal right to control what the child does or the decisions that he or she makes.

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Finances

From age 18 you also have complete control over your finances. Parents have no legal right to know what their children earn, the investments that they make, the products or services that they pay for, or the savings decisions that they choose. An 18-year-old may choose to make a family member a joint account holder, a beneficiary or an emergency contact for all things related to finances, but there’s no UK law which can force an 18-year-old to share finances and financial information with his or her parents. Family ties or family duties might mean a lot to the family on an emotional level, but they would have no weight in a UK court.

  • From age 18 you also have complete control over your finances.
  • An 18-year-old may choose to make a family member a joint account holder, a beneficiary or an emergency contact for all things related to finances, but there’s no UK law which can force an 18-year-old to share finances and financial information with his or her parents.

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16-year-olds in the UK

Even though children in the UK need to be 18 in order to be completely free of parental control in the legal sense, there are a number of different circumstances in the UK in which a child between the ages of 16 to 17 might be able to contest a parent’s decision. When a child turns, he or she is legally able to change his or her name on a birth certificate without getting parental consent. A 16 or 17-year-old is also legally allowed to join the armed forces, join a religion and consent to having sex. It is a legal requirement for children under the age of 18 to be in the care of a parental figure, but in some circumstances a UK court might rule otherwise if it believes it is in the best interests of the child. Between the ages of 16 and 17, if a child doesn’t want to live with his or her parents, a UK court might rule in favour of the child and remove parental rights over that child for the child’s wellbeing. The legal age for marriage in the UK is 18, but between the ages of 16 and 17 (with parental consent) it is possible for a child to marry legally.

  • Even though children in the UK need to be 18 in order to be completely free of parental control in the legal sense, there are a number of different circumstances in the UK in which a child between the ages of 16 to 17 might be able to contest a parent’s decision.
  • Between the ages of 16 and 17, if a child doesn’t want to live with his or her parents, a UK court might rule in favour of the child and remove parental rights over that child for the child’s wellbeing.
Sours: https://www.ehow.co.uk/info_12275873_parental-responsibility-18yearolds.html
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Age Based Rights

The age of majority in British Columbia is 19 years old. That’s the age when someone legally becomes an adult and can do things like vote in an election. However, there are some things that young people can do before they legally become an adult.

Young people in British Columbia gain the following legal rights at different ages:

Age

Right or Responsibility

5

Attend school

12

Name change with permission of parent(s)

12

Consent needed for adoption

12

Able to work with consent of parent/guardian

12

Age of consent if partner is less than 2 years older

12-17

Responsible for crime - protected by the Youth Criminal Justice Act

14

May be sentenced for crimes under adult law

14

Donate organs/tissues for medical purposes

14

Age of consent if partner is less than 5 years older

15

Able to work without consent of parent/guardian

16

Leave school

16

Able to write a will

16

Marry with permission of parent(s)

16

Apply for own passport

16

Get a driver’s licence with permission of parent(s)

16

Age of consent

17

Join the armed forces with parental consent

17

Able to donate blood

18

Vote in a provincial or federal election

18

Able to run in an election

18

See a restricted/adult movie

18

Entitled to full minimum wage

19

Enter a binding contract

19

Get married (without parent’s permission)

19

Get a driver’s licence (without parent’s permission)

19

Drink/Purchase alcohol

19

Age to gamble

19

Buy lottery tickets

19

Join the forces without parental consent

19

Minimum age required to adopt a pet from SPCA

19

Leave home (without parent’s permission)

19

Age to receive a credit card in BC

19

Buy cigarettes

19

Sue or be sued on your own

19

Name change (without parent’s permission)

no legal age

Babysitting

no legal age

Consent to health care treatment depending on maturity level

no legal age

Getting tattoos or piercing

no legal age

See school records

no legal age

Testify in court

no legal age

Single parents can sign up for social assistance

no legal age

Consume alcohol at home, if supplied by parent(s)

no legal age

Protection from age-based discrimination

Going to School

All children between 5 and 16 years old must go to public school every day. This is not true if a child is in any of the following situations:

  • Goes to a private school
  • Is at home studying lessons approved by the government
  • Is sick and can’t go to school or there is some other good reason
  • Has no school near their home and no bus access

Working 

You can get a job without your parents' permission as soon as you turn 15. Children between 12 and 14 need their parents' permission to work and can't work when they are supposed to be in school.

Children under 12 years old can't be employed without a child employment permit issued by the Director of Employment Standards.

There are exceptions to some of these rules, such as for  kids working in the entertainment industry.

For more information, see Work.

Babysitting

There is no law that says when you are old enough to babysit. Parents who are looking for babysitters are responsible for making sure their children are properly taken care of and it's up to them to make a decision about whether or not you are old enough to babysit. Some parents will only hire adults to take care of their children, others are willing to hire teenagers, particularly to look after older kids.

In deciding if they should hire you as a babysitter, a parent might consider:

-       your age and how mature you are maturity
-       how many children they have and how old they are
-       what babysitting experience you have
-       how long you will be babysitting
-       whether there are adults nearby to call in case of an emergency.

If you are interested in babysitting, consider taking a babysitting course. The Red Cross offers a babysitting course is for youth who are 12 and older. You can learn more about the course on the Red Cross website.

If you do get hired as a babysitter minimum wage laws do not apply. That means what you get paid is up to you and the parents hiring you to decide. Parents who hire you as a babysitter should give you clear instructions about caring for their children and be home when they say they will. If you are uncomfortable in someone's home or don't think they are treating you fairly, don't take the job!

Getting Married

People 19 years old or older can get married without permission. Young people between 16 and 19 can marry if their parents agree. Young people under 16 usually can’t get married unless they go to court and get permission to marry from a judge. The judge will only agree if he or she thinks this is good for them.

Committing a Crime

The first time a young person (12 to 17 years) does something wrong, he or she will not usually have to go to court. If it is not the first time they have been in trouble or they did something more serious, like had a weapon such as a knife or gun, they will have to go to Youth Court.

If the judge at the Youth Court decides you are guilty, they can do the following:

  • Make you pay a fine
  • Make you pay for damage with money or by working
  • Give you volunteer work to do in the community
  • Let you go home, but have someone from the court check on you for up to two years (probation)
  • Make you go to jail if it’s a serious crime

If someone over 14 years old is accused of a very serious crime, like murder, they can be sentenced as an adult. For more information, see Crime.

Driving a Car

Young people between 16 and 19 years old can get a driver’s licence if they pass the tests and their parents are willing to apply for the licence.

A young person driving a car has the same responsibilities as an adult. If young people less than 18 years old get a car, they can’t register or get licence plates for it unless their parents sign the papers.

For more information about getting a driver’s licence, traffic tickets, car accidents, and more, see Driving.

Tattoos and Piercing

There is no law in BC that says how old you have to be get tattoos or body piercings. The Ministry of Health recommends that studios get parents’ consent before working on people under 19. Some studios have their own rules. For example, some studios won’t give tattoos or piercings to youth under the age of 17 without their parent’s written permission.

No matter what your age, studios should make sure you are giving your informed consent. That means you understand the risks and have the maturity to make the decision, you are getting the work done because you want to (and not because someone is pressuring you to) and that you are not under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

If you are thinking about getting body or facial piercings take a look at the information on the Kids Help Phone website.

Sours: https://www.justiceeducation.ca/legal-help/rights/age-based-rights/age-based-rights
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About legal age in Australia

As your child grows up and becomes more independent, you might be wondering how old they need to be before they can do certain things.

In Australia, you’re considered to be an adult when you turn 18 years old. But for certain things, the legal age can be younger.

The information in this article is general in nature, and laws differ from state to state. So if you have concerns about your child’s legal rights or obligations, it’s always best to:

If you stay connected with your child through the teenage years, your child is likely to do better at avoiding pressure to be involved in risky behaviour or illegal activity. But if you’re worried about your child’s behaviour, seek help by talking with your GP or calling your state or territory parenting helpline.

Alcohol and other drugs

Alcohol
The minimum age for buying and drinking alcohol in licensed premises like bars, clubs, restaurants and bottle shops is 18years.

Children under 18 can’t drink alcohol on private premises like their own homes or friends’ homes unless the alcohol is supplied by a parent, guardian or someone who was given permission by a parent or guardian. Where there’s no parental permission, the person supplying the alcohol might be breaking the law.

In most states and territories, the person supplying the alcohol must also be supervising the child responsibly.

In places where drinking alcohol in public is permitted, children under the age of 18 can’t drink or have alcohol in public.

Other drugs
Using or possessing drugs like crystal meth (ice), ecstasy, heroin and cocaine is against the law at any age.

In the Australian Capital Territory, you can have a small amount of cannabis for personal use at home if you’re over 18. But it’s against the law to store it where children can reach it. Using or possessing cannabis is against the law in all other states and territories.

For more information

There’s no safe level of alcohol use for children under the age of 18 years. And it isn’t safe for anyone to use illegal drugs at any age. Alcohol and other drugs can affect children’s health, brain development, behaviour, schoolwork and relationships.

Criminal responsibility

The age of criminal responsibility is the age at which you can be arrested, charged and found guilty of breaking the law. In Australia the age of criminal responsibility is 10 years old.

For children aged 10-13 years to be found guilty of breaking the law, it must be proved that they knew their behaviour was ‘seriously wrong’ at the time, not just ‘naughty’.

From 14 years, children are considered fully responsible if they break the law. It doesn’t have to be proved that they knew their behaviour was ‘seriously wrong’.

Children aged 10-17 years are generally treated as ‘children’ by the police and the children’s courts. This means they generally face legal procedures and penalties that are designed for children. For example, their names are kept secret during legal proceedings.

When young people aged 18years and over break the law, they’re treated as adults by the court, and adult penalties apply.

Driving

To get learner permits or licences (Ls) to drive cars, children must be 16 years old – except in the Australian Capital Territory, where it’s 15 years and 9 months.

When learner drivers pass their driving tests, they can get their provisional or probationary licences (Ps). The minimum age at which drivers can get their Ps ranges from 16 years and 6 months in the Northern Territory to 18 years in Victoria. It’s 17 years in other states and territories.

For more information
Teenagers learning to drive

Employment: casual and part time

Generally, in New South Wales, South Australia, Tasmania, the Australian Capital Territory and the Northern Territory, there’s no minimum age for most types of casual or part-time work.

In Victoria, Western Australia and Queensland, there’s a minimum age of 13 years to start casual or part-time work.

All states and territories have exceptions and restrictions that apply to their age-related employment rules.

States and territories might have exceptions and restrictions on things like the:

  • number of shifts, days or hours children can work
  • times children can work
  • way that paid work affects schoolwork
  • requirements for supervising children at work.

It’s important to check the relevant laws in your state or territory to make sure that your child’s employment arrangements are fair and legal. This includes things like hours of work, supervision, pay rates and so on.

For more information

Gambling

The legal age for gambling is 18 years in all states and territories. This includes gambling on the lottery and scratchy cards, on the pokies, at the TAB, at a casino and with online betting platforms or apps.

For more information
Gambling and teenagers

Health care

At any age, children can visit a doctor without a parent or a guardian being present.

From14, children can:

  • consent to simple health care treatments
  • control what goes into their My Health Record and who has access to it.

At 15, children can get their own Medicare card, or younger if they ask a parent for it.

From 16, children can consent to medical and dental treatment in the same way that adults can. But they don’t have an automatic right to refuse treatment, particularly life-saving treatment.

When children are 18, they can give full legal consent for medical treatment and also refuse it.

For more information

Leaving home

There’s no minimum age for when a child can leave home.

The law says that parents are responsible for looking after children’s needs until children turn 18. This means that it might be OK for children to leave home before 18 if:

  • they have your permission
  • they have a safe place to go
  • they are otherwise following the law – for example, still attending school
  • you make sure their needs are still being met.

Family violence is not OK. If your family is experiencing problems, you or your child can get help by calling the National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service on 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). Your child can also contact Kids Helpline on 1800 551 800.

Leaving school

Most states and territories allow children to leave school after they’ve finished Year 10.

But if children want to leave school after Year 10, the law might say they have to do some other form of education or a mix of education, training or employment until they turn 17. In Western Australia the age is 17 years and 6 months. In Tasmania the age is 18 years or when children complete their other training (whichever comes first).

There might be special exemptions in some states and territories for children who want to leave school before they’ve finished Year 10.

For more information

Phones and social media

There are no laws about when children are allowed to have mobile phones.

Some social media platforms have age restrictions. For example, to have a Facebook or Instagram account, your child must be 13 years old. Many platforms don’t have specific age limits.

For more information

Piercings

Non-intimate areas
In the Australian Capital Territory, Northern Territory and Queensland, teenagers under 18 years can get body-piercings without parental permission.

In Western Australia, teenagers under 18 years can get body-piercings with their parents’ permission.

In Tasmania, Victoria, South Australia and New South Wales, teenagers under 16 years need their parents’ permission for body-piercings.

Intimate areas
In New South Wales, body-piercers aren’t allowed to give teenagers under 16 years piercings in intimate areas, like the genitalia or nipples, even with parental permission.

In Queensland, Tasmania, Victoria, South Australia and Western Australia, body-piercers aren’t allowed to give teenagers under 18 years piercings in intimate areas, even with parental permission.

In the Australian Capital Territory and Northern Territory, there are no specific rules about piercings in intimate areas.

For more information
Tattoos and body-piercings: teenagers

Sexual consent

In most Australian states and territories, the age at which you can legally consent to have sex is 16 years. The exceptions to this are South Australia and Tasmania, where it’s 17 years.

When someone has sex with a person under the age of consent, they might have committed a serious offence.

New South Wales, Victoria, the Australian Capital Territory and Tasmania have laws that provide a legal defence for someone having sex with a person under the age of consent if the two people are of similar ages. This is known as a close in age defence.

In New South Wales, Victoria, Western Australia, South Australia, the Australian Capital Territory and the Northern Territory, it’s also against the law for a person in a position of authority to have sex with a child in their authority who’s under the age of 18 years. People in this category include teachers, sports coaches, employers and health professionals.

For more information

Sexting

Under Australian law sexting involving a child under 18 years old is a criminal offence even when it’s consensual, and even when the person sending the sext is also a child.

Also, sexting is illegal in all Australian states and territories, except in Victoria and Tasmania. In Victoria and Tasmania, sexting is legal if both people are under 18 and there’s no more than a two-year age gap.

For more information
Sexting: talking with teenagers

Tattoos

In Victoria, South Australia, Tasmania and Queensland, it’s a criminal offence for a tattooist to do tattoos for someone under 18 years.

In the Australian Capital Territory and New South Wales, teenagers under 18 years need to get their parents’ permission for tattoos. As a parent, you have to give your permission either in person or in writing, and you have to say what type of tattoo you agree to and where.

In Western Australia, teenagers have to be over 16 years and have their parents’ permission for tattoos. Permission must be in writing and must explain the type of tattoo you agree to and where.

In the Northern Territory, there are no specific rules about getting a tattoo. In practice tattooists have their own industry standards, and teenagers are often asked to get their parents’ permission for tattoos.

For more information
Tattoos and body-piercings: teenagers

Voting

Voting is compulsory in Australia for all people aged 18 years and over. Teenagers can enrol to vote at 16 or 17 years of age but can vote only once they turn 18.

Sours: https://raisingchildren.net.au/teens/behaviour/behaviour-questions-issues/legal-age-teenagers-and-the-law

Parents old 18 year rights against

When Your Teen Says: “I’m Almost 18 – You Can’t Tell Me What to Do!”

Ah, the battle cry of the “almost adult”! Parents all around the country cringe when they try to enforce a family rule, only to be met with their 17-and-a-half-year-old’s shout: “Soon, you won’t be able to control me at all!”

Is that true? Are all bets off once your child reaches that golden age of 18?

The answer is yes and no. (But mostly no.) It’s true that when your child reaches the age of 18, they are legally seen as an adult and are legally responsible for their own behavior instead of their parents. They can’t break laws, of course – being 18 just means you can be tried as an adult, not that you’re free to do anything you please.

What concerns many parents is how much control they can have over their child once they reach 18, and many parents abdicate all authority once their kids are no longer minors. So how can you tell your child what to do when they’re legally an adult?

Parents Get to Make the Rules in Their Home

The truth is, no matter how old your child, you have the right to make and enforce the rules of your house. Your 18-year-old has to follow the rules just as much as your 4-year-old does.

Of course, as kids get older, they can earn more privileges and have more responsibility. However, the age factor does not give them an excuse to be abusive (verbally or physically) or disrespectful.

Your house rules are your house rules. And as James Lehman (creator of The Total Transformation child behavior program) says, there’s never any excuse for abuse—no matter how old someone is.

In the Empowering Parents three-part series on adult children, James Lehman describes how many parents get sucked into feeling like they owe their child a place to live or food to eat. Indeed, many older children begin to treat their parents’ home as though it were a hotel.

Parents Get to Enforce the Rules in Their Home

Teens have an error in their thinking when they believe that turning 18 suddenly means they can do whatever they want. That “thinking error” shows up in many ways, often around issues of school or good grades.

If they don’t want to go to school, they’ll say, “I’m almost 18—you can’t make me.” Or, “As soon as I turn 18, I’m going to quit, and you can’t stop me.”

Both of those statements are true. You can’t force your child to go to school, and you can’t stop them from quitting once they’re 18. You can, however, enforce a family rule.

If you believe your child should finish high school, tell them:

“You’re right. I can’t force you to go, and I can’t stop you from quitting. However, the rule in this house is that you stay in school and graduate from high school or get a full-time job and pay rent. The choice is up to you.”

If they come back at you with “Okay, I’ll move out then,” you may just need to let that comment slide. Teens often challenge your rules by threatening you with leaving, trying to get you to give in to their demands.

A more appropriate response to that kind of comment would be:

“That’s not what I want to see happen. However, you do need to find a way to comply with the rules as long as you live here.”

Then, walk away. Your child might be so shocked by your reply that they’ll find a way to comply with your rules.

Your Rules Apply to Any Age Child (or Guest) in Your Home

Remember, the rules are the rules—and the rules of your house remain the rules of your house no matter how old your child. It would be the same for a guest in your home. It’s your home, after all.

This needs to be stated clearly and firmly. Your house rules should reflect your morals and values and provide a safe environment for everyone in the home.

For example, no stealing or lying will be tolerated in your home. Curfews need to be met. Basic hygiene and respect for others’ property are expected. And no drug or alcohol use is allowed, especially if the child is still under legal drinking age.

You may have other rules to add to this list. If your 18 or older child is living in your house, they need to abide by your rules or face the consequences. Sit down together and talk about your rules, expectations, and potential consequences.

How to Respond to ‘You Can’t Tell Me What to Do!’

Once you’ve had this discussion, you can sidestep all those cries of “You can’t make me.” When your child challenges you with “I’m almost 18, you can’t tell me what to do,” the most effective response is:

“You’re right. I can’t tell you what to do outside of this house. But while you’re here, you do need to comply with my rules. You don’t have to like them, but you do have to find a way to follow them.”

Don’t engage in a power struggle over who’s right or wrong, and don’t argue with their faulty thinking patterns and entitlement. If they break the rules, follow through with the consequence for breaking those rules.

Conclusion

Remember, whether your child is 5 years old or over 18, your home is your home, and your rules are your rules. Once they’re 18, you can’t control all their choices, but you can create a safe and somewhat peaceful home environment. Good luck!

Sours: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/when-your-teen-says-im-almost-18-you-cant-tell-me-what-to-do/
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How a Teenager's 18th Birthday Affects Parental Rights

While your teen is busy blowing out birthday candles and contemplating their new adult status, take a moment to find out the sometimes unexpected ways the law and your child's 18th birthday may affect you. Consider these effects on the parents of a child who has turned into an 18-year-old adult.

Medical Issues

Want to discuss your 18-year-old’s health, possible sexual activity, or substance abuse with their doctor or campus health services? No can do. When your child turns 18, you are no longer considered their legal representative. Under the federal Health Information Portability and Accountability Act or HIPAA, your teen’s health records are between them and their health care provider.

If you need access, and your child agrees, they may grant you durable power of attorney, which authorizes you to make health care decisions for them, even if they are not incapacitated. (However, if your goal is to turn your child into a competent, independent adult, you might want to think twice about this option.)

Insurance

Under the 2010 U.S. health-reform act, young adults can be covered by family health insurance policies through age 26. Be sure to check with your insurance agent and explore ways to get health coverage for your child.

Financial Privacy

Want to discuss your child’s credit card balance or financial account status with his college or bank? Their finances are as private as yours. You may still have access to any joint accounts you’ve set up with them, but no college purser or bank officer will break confidentiality laws for your teen’s private accounts.

Most colleges, however, offer teens the option of granting their parents access to tuition and housing bills.

Most colleges and universities allow teens to charge books, sweatshirts, and other campus bookstore purchases to their campus accounts. Setting some guidelines would be a smart move.

Grades and Academic Records

Similarly, your child’s relationship with professors and college administrators is also private. Paying your child’s college tuition does not give you access to their grades.

A Word From Verywell

Your job has changed dramatically, from 24/7 parenting to advisor. Need a good place to start? Sit down and discuss your teen’s new legal status with them.

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